For many of us, when someone compliments us, our initial reaction is to reject that compliment. Compliments are essential, so why is this considered the norm?
Words and Compliments Hold Power
Compliments, and words in general, hold a lot of power. Flattery via compliments is used daily to further relationships, get jobs, and many other reasons. Contrary to what most people think, we don’t randomly hand out compliments most of the time. When was the last time you gave someone a compliment that you truly didn’t mean?
Compliments can be an important tool in your confidence toolbelt. Our brains are hardwired to think negatively, which is why many of us tend to dismiss when people sing our praises. Part of re-wiring our mindset is recognizing our strengths and wins.
Accepting Compliments Exercises A New Muscle
One of the best ways to get the information to stick is repetition when learning something new. It’s how we learn math, history, and language. It’s how we can learn self-confidence too. We often supplement the repetition with positive affirmations (that’s a great habit!), but that is often an internal repetition. What about our external positive affirmations or compliments?
Keeping track of compliments that you receive can help get that repetition started. I recommend keeping a google sheet to jot down compliments. The compliments are easily accessible this way: you can quickly reference or add on new ones!
Best Reasons For Keeping Track Of Compliments:
- Great to look back on when having a rough day
- An arsenal of moments to show qualified skills
- Reminders of the value others see in you
- Affirmations that you are worthy
A Peak Into My Own Tracker
I love Google Sheets and use it for just about everything. Here is an example of how I use my compliment tracker:
Let me know down in the comments how compliments affect your life. If you want to participate in the January 2022 compliment challenge, follow me on Instagram @jenn.lacayo and share your compliments!